I watched Terms of Endearment the other night with Joe and Zoe. Joe had never seen it before, so it was on our ‘to watch’ list for a long time. Zoe and I both cried a few times. Joe, not so much. I don’t know why I do it to myself, and I don’t get why Joe doesn’t feel moved by it, but I love watching this movie even though I cry every time. It’s touching. I’m such a girl.
It’s about life, love, and loss. It’s about the beauty and joy that life brings along with the sorrow and challenges that present themselves. It’s about family dynamics, between a mother and daughter, a husband and wife, and between mother, father, grandmother and children. It’s profoundly realistic, a movie we can all relate with. No wonder it won awards. Here is a list of some of the life lessons in this movie:
- Mothers and daughters don’t always agree on things, but the lucky ones get along anyway. They talk on the phone and try to understand each other when one is upset. If they don’t understand each other, they take time apart but love each other unconditionally.
- Husbands and wives may love each other but don’t always meet each other’s needs. It takes communication and dedication to the family.
- Kids are damaged when they see and hear their parents fighting, yet there is unwavering love between a mother and her kids no matter what.
- While all parents can’t be perfect, we are all doing the best we can in juggling our desires and responsibilities.
- Marriage is never easy. It takes compromise on the parts of both parties, but together you can take steps to do what’s good for your family.
- You are never too old to fall in love.
- Life can grab you by surprise when you least expect it.
- When you find out you are going to lose someone, your entire perspective shifts.
- When you do lose a loved one, you are faced with a choice of crumbling or doing what you have to do to continue living.
- The spirit of a lost loved one lives in the hearts of all those who knew and loved that person.
- Life goes on.