I’m dropping the ‘for’ at the end of this sentence on purpose. I don’t think it belongs there. Grammar aside, this question is well worth asking and answering. My first thought was my husband. I gave it a couple of days, and my answer is still my husband, Joe. He makes my life worth living. I kind of don’t like this question because to me all life is worth living. But if you are going to ask me who is the most important person in my life and who is the person I couldn’t live without, it is definitely Joe.
I met him in 1998 when he was a personal trainer at a gym (I was his 12:30 appointment one Sunday) and I had just moved to Reno, NV for my first teaching job. We clicked right away, became quick friends and running mates. I broke off an engagement with another guy (the guy I moved to Reno with) because it didn’t make sense to me that I was to marry him when I spent all my time with my best friend Joe from the gym. I was clear with Joe about my goals, to be remarried and to have another baby. Sierra was six when we got married in 1999, and we had Zoe in 2000. Let me talk for a minute about being a single mom with Sierra trying to find a new husband. I was never at a lack for dates, but what was lacking was the kind of guy who was not afraid of commitment and fatherhood. Joe stepped right up and loved Sierra because he loved me. Amazing.
We married in 1999, had Zoe in 2000, and moved to Virginia in 2001 so he could start law school. We had Thomas in 2004, and then I stopped working to be a full time mom. In 2006, we moved to a bigger house in Texas, and just this year he made partner at his law firm in Dallas. Although I returned to work for a few years, I’m now back at home full time and tutoring math part time. Joe supports me in whatever I want to do. Even as a stay home mom, he supports me in having ‘me’ time, and he helps out with grocery shopping and cooking now and then to give me a break. He works hard for us to enjoy a nice quality of life. He is my best friend and an excellent father to our kids. He spends time with them one on one so they can develop healthy relationships, so the kids can grow up assured that their father values them, something I lacked so much in my youth.
He made all my dreams come true and fathered two beautiful children with me. He wants me to be happy, and he’s there for me when I need him. He is smart and challenges me intellectually. He is sweet and loves me just the way I am. He believes in me, and he says that I bring out the best in him. Of course we have our issues and little fights like every married couple, but without Joe my life would fall apart. He is my person, my rock, my soft place to land. He makes my life worth living.